almost 3 months....seems like eternity

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[spoiler]That is very insightful. Sandi is awesome!

Now, I will be the first to admit that I am not ready to jump back into our old M. I am sure things would quickly go sideways. We have many issues, on both sides, that we need to work out. I am willing to work slowly in it, stay separated, whatever, with the understanding that it may not work. This is pretty much the situation you are in tallula. You're both on board .I would LOVE to be in your sitch right now, or to just have my wife show ONE sign that she isn't 100% done. That is all I would need. Unfortunately, I am working on myself alone, all alone. I know, DBing is for "ME", and I am working hard towards being a better person. I really am. It just doesn't make it any easier when you know your S isn't putting in any work and shows no signs of returning.

It is just discouraging....today is discouraging. tomorrow WILL BE BETTER...I have to remind myself of that.
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My H wanted. To know that I was going to put 100 percent effort in working on our M. Well guess what? I was so angry when he made that statement, I almost decided to leave. How dare him say that to me! I was the one who had worked so hard all those decades.......while he did nothing! My god, it was taking all I had just to not get a D, and he expected 100 percent from me? What percent had he given?

WOW! This opens my eyes so much thanks for sharing this sandi2. I said that to my W, now I get it, now I can see how blind I am!