June was mostly uneventful. We had D#1’s baby shower. Also, on a night we were out to eat as a family, W spent the entire time on her iPhone typing a letter to FF – which had the added benefit of infuriating me since it was supposed to be a family outing. There was no blow up, I just left the house after she went to sleep and went to the gym to work out for a few hours. I did pull up her letter and was even angrier about the contents as it read like a breakup letter, discussing how she wasn’t happy with the situation at the restaurant but wasn’t happy at home either.
I sent a copy of the letter to myself, and deleted that from her sent items folder. I showed the letter to my counselor who told me that what I read might not be what it seems like; since men and women do communicate differently (I had yet to find MWD or any other relationship self-help material).
After re-reading it several times, I began to see what my counselor was saying. There are many ways to interpret what was said in the letter as it was vague in a lot of ways. The only good that came out of this was it’s the last time I looked at her iphone. I decided after this that the only effect it had was I would get angrier and angrier at things I have no control over.
Shortly thereafter, I started listing to Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness CD’s – W refused to listen to anything or go to counseling of any type.
