Calmly state it. Once. No need to launch into why, or anything. "i am not going to provide the gas for you to see OM anymore." let her figure out That is what I did with my H. With the smaller ones like the one you are suggesting, he took them week. Like, no brainer. But also be prepared for extreme anger. When I stated that my H needed to provide transparency & defriend OW on facebook or we separate, he was MAD!! I had spent months putting up with alot in order to give him space & time, so he screamed & yelled. Threatened immediate divorce. Walked out of MC when he saw how serious I was. But he calmed & became understanding & apologetic.
Just remember, short & sweet. No need to argue or state more than once. No more financing her A. Then end. Calm & nice tone.
Good luck! I think it is great that you are doing this for you!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
