If I want to keep them in my life, I must accept them just as they are, not who I wish they would be.
It's difficult for those of us who have overfunctioned for years to be come to terms with that, but it's much healthier.
Very good observation and advice. My W would drop friends because she could not accept them for who they were. And then one day, she got dumped herself very publicly and in a very cruel way by a close friend and it literally destroyed her.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
