W came over this evening just like normal. I've noticed the last couple of days that she is sneaking drinks while here. I'm realizing that the drinking may be more of a problem that I thought.
She made a comment to S9 that she had different feelings for him than she did for me because I'm her husband. Ill take that. We shared lots of laughs as a famy at the supper table. It felt so good.
She seemed happy that I bought the S's v-day cards and gifts. She asked if the cards were from dad to S's. smiled when I told her no they were from both of us.
Last positive comment was when she looked at her 401k statement. Hers is doing quite well, and she thanked me for making the correct changes in her investments. I made them over a year ago and lately she can't remember what she had for lunch.
I find myself wondering if she's just using me, but its my decision to make her feel safe. Not getting upset over her damaging the car may have won me some points. I told her it was ok, that it happens to everyone. She said, 'not you!!!' I was able to remind her that I hit a tree 5 or 6 years ago, but I squared it with my bumper. We had a good laugh.
I'm beginning to think she looks at me as being 'perfect', due to statements she's made, and possibly feels her drinking makes her unworthy of the relationship?? Not sure what I should do to help her understand what love means.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
