Rinse, repeat, replay

[Raine]

And so the story continues...

H decides to go to a parking lot last week and make out with OW#1. Second time caught in a car with OW#1 now. Stupid teenager makeout crap. Seriously what 36 yr old goes and makes out in a parking lot? Not like the car was hidden anywhere, or towards the back. And how do I know this? Oh because my brother and his D15 pulled in right in front of them. Brother’s D had no idea about any of this stuff going on. She flipped out. Most people just know that we have separated to work on some personal issues.

So I get a text from brother about it and I no longer feel can I ignore it. Cat is out of the bag. I called H. I pretty much talked to him like I was a friend, trying not to talk to him like he is a child. I said stuff like this:

“Seriously, you need to do that in a place where anyone could see you, family, friends, etc? These kids idolize you.” “Whatever happens with us, whether we are ever together again, you don’t need this kind of stuff following you, because this is not you.”
“Karma is a biotch. Second time now?”
“You’re playing with fire, and what are you going to do if this goes south and she goes to HR, just as you have seen happen to others?”
“You do what you feel you need to do, but I don’t agree with it.”
“I’m not your mother.”
“This has nothing to do with me.”

I told him I care about what happens to him and it’s hard to watch him doing so much damage to himself and know there is nothing I can do to help him.

His reaction was non-apologetic, of course. Basically the, “I’m done with trying to hide it.” And “That’s fine. Everyone can just hate me now.” I told him to get over his pity-party. I told him that he told me not to trust him, so I don't, and that he is a liar. He says he’s not a liar, just evasive. I said "Same thing." We hung up and then an hour later he was sending me game requests, which I ignored. He was an hour late for work the next day. Rough night I suppose.

He did not go see OW all weekend, even though I knew he had plans to. He stayed in his hole, other than he took the kids both on Sat/Sun for a few hours each time. He even brought stuff to make dinner with them on Sunday. He called me before to see if I had ingredients on hand, but I had ignored his call, so he brought it all.

He continues to call over nonsense reasons. He has been better about calling to say g'night and told me he feels really bad when he looks at the time and it's way past their bedtime. Of course there are very simple fixes for something like that, but he needs to figure those out. I am as dark as I am probably ever going to be. No FB, no games, no messages, no answering the call the first time. I think I still love him, but I really don't like him.