Breathe. You don't know what's going on and you do not have to decide anything right this second.
True.
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I used to just spin over every little thing. If I slippped I was convinced that was it, it was over, done, fini.
That's me, also. I'm always really hard on myself.
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Nietzche: "Hope is the worst of evils, for it prolongs the torment of man” ~Friedrich Nietzsche
I definitely subscribe to that one, but I'm trying to think more like Dickinson.
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So, remember, you don't know what you don't know and the scenario stuff will make you crazy.
So true. It's so hard not to look at her Facebook profile, but I've been good.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Why do you think she has another man? Have you seen signs that pointed to OM?
Yes, the day of the BD, I saw an inappropriate text on her phone. She said it was just joking with an old friend and admitted it was inappropriate. She has repeatedly said there is no one else. She has active profiles on several dating sites now.
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Did indicate her plans, or just tell you she's going out of town? If you haven't seen her in five weeks, why would she contact you to tell you about her weekend? Or.....did you ask her out for Valentines?
We have been trying to get together with her paralegal to discuss the settlement agreement. She cancelled the one that was scheduled for this week. I had texted her to ask if she would endorse the apartment deposit refund check that she said previously I could have so I could cash it. She said no, asked me to handle it through the paralegal, and said I need to get my stuff out of our storage unit within two weeks. Again, this is something I have been willing to do, but she keeps putting it off. I asked her if this weekend would be good and said she was going out of town this weekend.
I don't think I'll even be sending a text this Valentine's Day, but I may need to serve her my response to her petition due to the timelimit. I regret that.
I think I could forgive her if she could apologize for any PA or EA. I don't think she can forgive me for what I did to bring it to this point.
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Why didn't you continue to see the counselor with your W? Has there been infidelity in the past?
I've never seen a counselor with my W. I'm willing, she's not. I've never been physically or emotionally unfaithful with her. Prior to last month, I never even suspected she could entertain the idea herself. I was just emotionally absent and physically withdrawn for much of our marriage.
