LJC, I know it hurts that your W seems to be avoiding you, but you'll never be able to figure out why.

Maybe she had a headache, maybe she didn't have time to put makeup on and didn't want you to see her like that.

Maybe she thinks that by not seeing you at all, she can forget about you and move on.

My H has tried that (haven't seen him in almost five months). We don't have any kids together so it would be even easier for him to move on. But you know what, he still can't get me out of his mind completely.

Just keep working on yourself and GAL. Even if you never see her, your changes will get back to her-either through your kids, mutual friends, etc.

Let her think that you're ok without her and she'll wonder if she's made the wrong decision, if she's not already. Don't pressure her.

As counterintuitive as it is, leaving her alone is the best way to make her reconsider what she's doing.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13