The ups and downs of DBing

[Wendylon]

Thank you, Tori. You do have a knack at seeing the sitch clearly. You're absolutely right: H doesn't feel good about himself around me--on the contrary.

I also brought up finances this morning. That's a very touchy/loaded subject. H still hasn't done anything to clear his name since he realised beginning of December that someone had taken out a mobile phone contract in his name so he can't extend his mortgage on his mother's house. I stayed quiet for 2.5 months but he hasn't done a thing. I wonder whether I should offer to help him. He's someone who just buries his head in the sand when it comes to money. If he didn't live with me, I really wonder what would happen to him. I'm paying for everything at the moment. I know he will put money into the joint account when he sorts out this mortgage business but it could take years. He says he's owed lots of money from work but again he doesn't seem good at making sure money comes in.

I mentioned yesterday that I didn't like him drinking again. As you can imagine, that didn't go down well. I apologised later and he said "That's Ok, you're just really annoying". On the other hand, we discussed the party and he is very keen to represent our family even if I don't go. He'd probably prefer it without me since he sees me as a party-pooper who watches him and cramps his style.