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Actually I'm kind of surprised that people are offering condolences, LOL! I've tried to make it clear in my posts that I am extremely happy, I'm really in a great place mentally and physically! Is my marriage going to work out? Not likely, but my happiness is no longer tied to my marriage. I am no longer dependent on my W for anything, especially my happiness. So thank you and every one else for the thoughts, but I really am great!!

Okay. If that's how you feel, that's how you feel. No one can tell you how to feel. I guess I have hard time swallowing your extreme positive attitude because I feel no sense of loss in your words. I know I would still be sad even after GAL. Maybe because like you mentioned there were times you wanted to leave her that you are coping with this situation well. I've never thought of leaving my H because he was always good to me. I guess I'm such a typical LBS that had no idea. geez

My jaw nearly dropped in MC when she said the sex was great, because I thought it was mediocre. e

You mentioned this before and let me just say this. What we describe as "great sex" might be far different from what you or most men describe though. I've always enjoyed sex with my H except the time I had my own issue. I still think sex with him is the best I've had because he knows me, he knows my body and I felt so comfortable and connected every time. Did we explore different things? no. Did he feel our sex was medicore or boring? yes. If we have a shot at R, would I discuss and explore sex so we both can enjoy it? Big yes. That's another huge misunderstanding many Hs and Ws have I think. Many Hs say they want to explore and do different things but I wonder if they know how to get W excited about sex so they want to try different things..