He said he's tired of me making him feel like their behaviors at night (when he's not here) are completely his fault.
You can't make him feel anything, if he didn't have some guilt in there he'd be fine. But, I'm not sure a litany of what went on in the evenings will get your desired result. As much as you want him to see, he's going to close his eyes, put his fingers in his ears, while repeating lalalalalala. Don't get drawn into that, he can't/won't be your support right now. Find that elsewhere.
and maybe one more...
Are your boys too busy? That constant "have to be somewhere" puts a lot of stress on an intact family, so it's really stressful for a broken family. Are there things you can cut out?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
