I agree w/the others...take some time out for yourself and recharge. Your wife is still bouncing around and is still working things out.

Don't sell yourself short...you are someone that has shown just how strong and patient a person can be. Dig deeper for more patience.

Hang in there!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.