SM I'm not coming down hard on you in regards to patience I'm just reminding to be patient so as not to pressure her. As for the messaging why wouldn't she? You are giving her the best of both worlds. She is sleeping with OM and you are just providing her with a roof over her head and food to eat and she doesn't meet any of your needs.
As far as Valentines Day goes I wouldn't get her anything or even acknowledge it especially since she sleeps with OM. It doesn't speak well of you to give her a gift it shows you as weak and needy.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out