Also from snooping, I saw a text conversation she was having with a friend of hers. The guy friend is venting that his wife only let's him have sex with her once a month. My W says wow once or twice a week wasn't even for me with H. Then she tells him he should go to MC with her before losing hope and that she thinks she should have done that and that it probably would have saved our marriage.

So admitting there is or at least was a solution?

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017