Leo, I understand completely now how you veterans come down hard on us noobs because that lights a fire under our butts =). I know you want to help me and I appreciate that more than I let up. But, I am a very patient person. Extremely patient. I can ride this out a long time.....maybe too long if you know what mean.

I just have a lot of confusion as to how to act towards wife. It's mainly because of the mixed opinions I get. Some support being very tough while some have said this period before separation should be almost the best time of her life.

Please give me some examples of hypothetical situations and what you would say in response. I have tried to look for hypothetical dialogues on here but all I can find is when a vet is advising a noob on a specific question. Any ideas?

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017