Time and tide...

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You have a lot of good feedback and advice going on here!

I personally used to fear the same as LittleGTO. That the more I shared, the more "definite" things became. It's not true. I have also always had issues with showing vulnerability and to me, sharing my situation and my pain meant that I would need to open up and show some of that vulnerability. I also feared people's reactions - would they reject me, my H, judge, etc. I was pregnant when H left, so I feared people thinking the worst of me, because after all, who would leave a pregnant woman, right?

All of the above - was just FEAR. Once I finally figured out the reasons why I was uncomfortable sharing, I was able to work through my fears and overcome them. The support I have found from those I chose to share with, which were only close people I could trust, has been invaluable. In fact, I know that I would have not made it without the support I have received and I am so grateful I allowed myself to be open, do a 180 and accept love and support from others.

I hope our experiences help you to at least feel like you are not alone, and hopefully also help you figure out the best approach for you in this situation.