Time and tide...

[2thepoint]

I appreciate the ideas on dealing with the friend's email. Here's a little more context that was perhaps lacking in my original post on the topic. The friends consist of a man who works with my W, (they both telecommute). So he started out as a work friend for her and eventually evolved into close family friends. His W is a nice girl but my W doesn't care for her because she finds her too needy and annoying. I'm not bothered by her at all, perhaps because I'm more adaptable to people. Who knows?

So you have the dynamic of friends who started out close to my W, then became close to both of us. My W would just as soon ditch them both as is her habit. So, it really is on me to either let the friendship die or try to resurrect it in some new and different form. I prefer to resurrect the friendship but then struggle with the idea of unintentionally putting them in a position to choose between me and my W, much like her family.

I've seen it said here many times to be careful of disclosing too much or trashing the WAS for fear of it cementing things from which there is no hope of return. I've been very careful in this regard. What I choose to disclose will not be in the form of blame although as time goes on, it gets harder to maintain due to how I always felt people would come to conclusions about the sitch that were completely inaccurate.

Anyway, I guess I will share just the basics and see where things go from there., I really do value the friendship and hope it doesn't come to an end. It has been a year since there has been any contact with these people so I need to apologize for the absence as well.