Time and tide...

[adinva]

I found it dissatisfactory to just have the facts without context. My sisters in law have been told nothing but H lives in another town. I've struggled with the lack of closeness that comes from being so vague and unbiased. They think I left him, or really who knows what they think, because they seem to be trying to let me reveal what I'm willing to, and I'm waiting for them to just ask.

So figure out what you want to be known, and tell that. You don't have to trash her, but don't go too far out of your way to protect their image of her because in doing that you'll sacrifice your closeness to your friends. I think you need that closeness.

That's just my experience and how I'd apply it to your sitch, I'm obviously still figuring this all out too.