Another issue a lot of men have....is not knowing for certain how she feels, or they want some kind of sign that there could be a little hope. Don't even get into that mindset b/c it's a death trap for you emotionally. She's given you her intentions, and now you have to live as if you've had your eyes open (and you have) and act (not talk) like you are going to change yourself for the better and plan to be happy......with or without her in your life. Trust me....it has a giant effect.
Maritimer, sorry I'm stealing a bit of your thread to ask Sandi a question.
Sandi, my wife and I are 5 months into our sitch. We have been in MC for about 4 months. At the beginning of MC we talked about our goals of building a new marriage relationship. I'm not sure the MC has done a lot towards rebuilding the connections my wife has for me.
In our next session I'd like to ask her what her goals are for the MC. Because I'm not sure she is in it to rebuild. That's just me mind reading. This is in MC so seems to be a valid question. But would I be pushing her?
