Since newcomers are often told to GAL (Get A Life) when they first post, I thought it might be a good idea for people to list the things they have done to get a life since the bomb dropped on them. Share everything, the more specific the better!
I'll go first:
Joined a gym / started lifting weights again.
Bought some new clothes.
Helping my widowed mother go through my dad's effects / fixing up her place.
Exercising again: lifting, running bike riding Picked up some old hobbies: classic computer stuff, looking for an old car to restore, reading Building things: two decks on the house, horse barn for parents, minor remodeling to the house Refinishing some older furniture Started doing my own maintenance on my cars Website design
No one hobby takes massive amounts of time, but, I do stay busy.
* Continued to run/jog everyday. * Cleaned up the house and garage and got rid of all the stuff that was just being kept - for no real reason apart from not wanting to get rid of it * Watching movies * Going to start learning to play guitar * Going to invites and meetings without excuses * Enjoying the small things in life better - talks with the sons and family etc
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Spending time getting to know our girls and their friends. Readying self help books. Go shopping for new clothes. Going alpine skiing with friends. Looking forward to motorcycle season.
Redecorating house all by me. Making curtains, artwork, DIY headboard, etc.
Continue running, working out.
Hanging out with friends.
Reading more. Self help, business, and recreational.
New yoga class
Feeling my emotions, spending some time alone (this is different for me)
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Working out. Flying. Freefalling. Getting the house in shape. Reading books. Visiting old friends. Doing activities on my own, which I seldom did.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
yeah, that's it!