I just dont understand the anger. I mean i did the first yr. or even two yrs. BUT over four years???? Why cant he see that his son needs both parents?
Hi Sunshine. Been a long time, no? You understood it?? I have to hand it to you. I have yet to understand any of it. And it's been a little longer. She got remarried right after but no baby that I'm aware of. My daughter is the one who is staying away. My son and I are very close at this point. But my ex is still very angry. I expect she always will be, at least where I'm concerned.
It was said to me a while back that I'm a reminder to her about things she did that she is not proud of. Maybe. But the anger is substantial just the same.
It doesn't stop me from parenting my kids. I do see the damage it does to the kids. But I cannot stop that.
I agree with Cadet - you have to go live your life and let the rest work itself out. It will. But it'll be a while and your ex is not going to change his anger toward you (and anyone else) for the near future. Eventually he may figure it out, or change, or transfer that anger elsewhere. More importantly, your son will figure it out, but he'll need to have you around to talk to. He'll be back again.
Be well, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
