Is this cake eating 11

[Grateful]

I've been going through a lot of thinking in the last 24 hrs.

Probably will change my mind again, but I feel so done.

The affidavit that stbx wrote to accompany the D application and order for separation of finances was, from my point of view, a re-write of everything we have experience during our M.

The scary thing for me is that I think he has convinced himself that his version is true. Financially, it was completely self-serving.

Someone who would write and sign such a thing as a 'true' version of what happened, for the purposes of a court of law is either a deliberate liar or is suffering from some sort of mental problem.

I know that's black-and-white thinking but you can't imagine the 'story' that he's concocted.

The thing that 'got' to me the most was his claim that we'd been separated (but living under the same roof) for one whole year before bomb drop.

It just beggars belief that he'd claim this. When he says we 'separated' we were actually enjoying the hol of a life-time in Europe.

This is so weird.

As is the case with most things, there will be three sides to this: your side, his side, and the truth.

His L is looking out for his best interest, and yours will too. Somewhere in the middle is where it will end up.