Ok, so I'm going to share something silly that I either read on here or some other online community. I thought it was absolutely ridiculous when I read it, but had shared it with H when he was home and ended up using it and it was highly effective. I had read somewhere about removing your clothes when you are arguing or tension is rising in a conversation about R (or just in general during reconciliation). Well, H actually did this while we were discussing something that was getting heated. Honestly, it was the best thing he could have done. I can't remember laughing that hard in a long time, it broke the tension and helped me realize I was slipping into old communication patterns.
LOL! You may have seen me mention it on these forums, but it's actually something Michele described in DR. She said it was an older couple that used the technique, so you can imagine it's doubly hilarious when you're exposing wrinkly, flabby, pale bodies while trying to argue with someone The two of them had a similar reaction to yours, they were laughing so hard that they couldn't continue arguing So glad to hear it's working for you too, it does sound like a big way to change the dynamics of an argument!
The two of them had a similar reaction to yours, they were laughing so hard that they couldn't continue arguing 
So glad to hear it's working for you too, it does sound like a big way to change the dynamics of an argument!