I’m curious if others have had similar situations where this goes on, but on the surface the couple acts almost as if there is no problem.
Yeah. After BD my W and I carried on like we always had before. But I tried to be more caring and compassionate, and she seemed to respond by drawing closer to me too. We got along great, kept doing everything together, started going to MC, continued to ML, etc. etc. But the long and short of it is when pressed in MC she kept saying she was done, didn't want to try and saw no long-term hope for the M. And she stuck to her guns too, it eventually drove her to move out.
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When I’m away from her, I think about our relationship constantly, I have read 10 different books, etc.
Good, it won't heal your M right away but it'll make you a better person.
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I now also go to the gym 4 times/week versus the 2 times/week that I used to go.
I have to ask, how do you think your W interprets it that you told her she can only go twice a week, but you're going four times a week? I really don't think the frequency that she goes to the gym is what's wrong with your M. She obviously enjoys it and if you "punish" her by limiting the activity she enjoys then I have a feeling it's going to backfire.
