Agree with Grace. Either this (if you can confirm it) is a boundary or it's not. Each of us have to determine for ourselves how many "strikes" we are going to withstand, but serial infidelity is a dealbreaker for most people.
serial infidelity is a deal breaker for me.
Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Enforce your boundary, and let him twist for awhile. If he tries to initiate any "what are you going to do?" convos with you, say something like "I have some decisions to make," or "I'm thinking about some things" and don't engage. A boundary explained is a boundary weakened.
Sunday's talk kind of took off and it did not end like I expected. I just wanted to let him know how I had been feeling. Did not expect it to escalate to the point of enforcing my boundaries on transparency and send him packing to the spare room.
I will not initiate or engage in conversation.
Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Expect him to wipe his phone clean and then either try to show it to you or "accidentally" leave it lying around where you can find it.
If there was an affair, I would only expect him to be hyper vigilant on keeping his tracks clean.
If I was going to confront him with cheating, I would have waited to get hard evidence. Like I said before, I just wanted to let him know how I was feeling lately.
Now at this point, I don't know if I will be able to confirm if there is a new affair. I guess time will tell.
