Cadet actually my son was 18 when this started. He is now 22!
I just dont understand the anger. I mean i did the first yr. or even two yrs. BUT over four years???? Why cant he see that his son needs both parents? My son still has alot of growing up to do. I feel like the divorce has stopped his growth somewhat. My ex has got him believing that I cant not make it on my own and that I am a worthless piece of crap. I say this because of some of the comments my son made when he came to stay with me. Dad kicked him out because son lost his job. I overheard son on phone tell his dad that my house was just has nice has his and etc.
Believe me I dont want to be best friends with these people. But my ex should understand that our son listening to them talk crap about me isnt healthy for him.
The new wife absolutely hates me and I figure some of this is coming from her.
The man I married would never have allowed our son to disrespect me. But he is not the man I knew. My ex has a total new lifestyle.
I have to wonder how my son deals with a NEW dad? I learned to cope with it and move on but my son has to live with it everyday. He said more than once, "mom, dad is so different". This has to confuse my son. And then the anger on top of that is so not helping. I just wish ex could see this. Its like he doesnt care. My son needs counseling but i know he wont go. I have had some counseling. I love my son so much and wish we ALL could just be civil and get along for him. We dont have to see each other, just stop the bashing.
