- she did say she wants to keep the line of communication open so I may send her a email tomorrow night - nothing heavy - just something simple.
Intact, I really think you should not contact her. Let her contact you. Continue to give her space to think. I know how hard this is.
Look, you got a piece of sorta good news yesterday. She sees positive changes you have made and she is not as sure about D as she once was. You must know her vacillating on this is concern for your S and probably has little to do with you. This is good though, it shows some level of responsibility. BUT, she is obviously still in la-la land and needs space. As you well know by now, her feelings about D could change in a week, tomorrow, or later tonight.
I have had to learn the hard way, as many of us do, to stop trying to figure out my W's state of mind. While my W has not filed, her current attitude after 4 months into this is that I’m to blame for everything and our trial separation is time she is giving me to adjust to single life. I pushed and prodded until I got that bit of info and it did not improve my sitch or help my PMA (about destroyed it again actually). She finally told me point blank, you can file now or you can wait a few months, makes no difference to her. As she has done the last 25 years, she is expecting that I will initiate the process, basically do it all for her. I told her I would not, that she will have to do this without my help. Anyway, I will not initiate any contact with her again, unless it’s about D10 and D15 and only if she absolutely has to know. Sorry to hijack the thread like this!
Intact, I think most of the folks in this forum will tell you the same thing. An email about nothing really pertinent tomorrow will be seen as pursuing and likely close lines of communication. She can talk to you whenever she feels like it. Let her.
Me42 W41 D10,D15 T25 M23 LYBNILWY 09/12 OEA 08/12(?)-ended? 01/13 Sep 01/13 I file 04/13 1rst D hearing 06/13 Currently in mediation
