Do I compete for her love or live as if I am letting her go?
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Get out and GAL. DETACH. LET GO Be the BEST DAD that you can be. Keep custody of your children. Tell her to move out of the house and try to shine a light on the affair.
Believe none of what she says and half of what she does. Have NO EXPECTATIONS. Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
You are on moderation right now on the forum. SO post in small frequent posts until you get off of it.
Your W is giving you a GIFT. THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.
Knowledge is Power - Francis Bacon
Keep Posting but have patience for your posts to show up
You might get more responses if you post on newcomers.
