Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated 2

[sam4nh]

I need some more help...My W is going to drive me to my grave with the flips and flops she is doing.

Yesterday before I left our house she raced to meet me. She had texted me and as I was opening the garage she was speeding into the driveway. She was on the phone and I waited for a few minutes and then decided to go ahead and leave since she was not getting out of her car. When she noticed me leaving she got out her car and hugged me. Then she walked into the house (she is staying at the house while I'm with my family). I left for the airport.

I get to the airport and about 30 minutes before I was boarding, she texts and says that she wanted to talk to me when she came to the house, but she was on a call with her boss. She asked me to call her and I did (probably not my best move).

When I talked to her she said she was very sorry for the death of my grandmother. She went on with we are still married and that wanted to know what I thought if she came to my grandmothers funeral. I was kind of stunned by this turn of events. She wanted to know who I had told about her request for a divorce. I said I had told a few people, but I did not know who they had told. I'm sure more than I realized know. She was specifically interested in whether my aunt and uncle knew and I said yes that I had told them. I told her that it was her decision if she wanted to come to the funeral, but I'm not sure of anyones reaction. She said it was about my grandmother and paying respect to her and her life.

I then talked to my sister and she said my W should not be there as it would be uncomfortable, especially for my dad. I agreed and called W back. I explained that it was probably not a good idea that she come to the funeral. She agreed and seemed okay with that. When I was boarding the flight I got a text of, "When did you tell you aunt and uncle?", I decided to leave that loaded question alone. I think she's trying to create a timeline of when my aunt sent her a message saying they missed and loved her. She wants to know if this was before or after I told them. Seems she wants to make sure they love her no matter what happens between us.

OK enough with fun events from yesterday...Now for today...

Just got a new text from W. She says, "I am truly sorry for your loss and I do love you and your family - I know this time [censored] and it seems like I could change it all in an instant but it is not that easy. I wish it could be different".

Do I respond to this message? Seems like she's just feeling guilty and I don't know what to do with this. My sister thinks I should respond with something sarcastic, but that is definitely not what I want to do. I wanted her here, not out of guilt, but because she cares about my family and me. Any thoughts on what I should be doing with this text?