AS glad your doing well brother, I finally took my riders edge course at my local Harley shop. Passed it, now it's time for my license. Then it's shopping time for me lol.
Fantastic! Good luck with the license, but I think you'll find it pretty easy after having taken the course.
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The book takes some practice, I have noticed a difference in my attitude and the way i deal with self doubt already.
It helped me a lot too. I probably only implemented maybe 25% of what I read, but even that much can make a big difference. I think the biggest point the book makes is that it's pointless to chase "happiness" or any other emotion, because all emotions are temporary and fleeting. So we can control our attitude rather than letting our emotions control it. It's a simple but profound concept!
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I am really struggling with a decision, my W wants half the equity from the house and I am not sure if I want to put that money back into a loan.
I REALLY hate to take on debt after having paid everything off, but I'm going to have to in order to pay W for her half of the house. My house is a good size for me and the kids without being overly huge. Plus selling a house, buying another house and moving always ends up costing much more than one would think.
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I asked her if she would mind me selling and she said: "I don't care" and shrugged her shoulders. To me that sounds like I don't want to tell you no, I'm trying to answer in the way you want me to.
This would be a good time to put your validation techniques to use, it's not just for your W but for anyone in your life. Sit down with her and ask her how it makes her feel. Don't say "what's wrong" because that will just put her on the defensive, like any response other than "nothing" is confirming to you that there is something "wrong" with her. So ask her how she feels about it. Then validate her feelings, tell her you understand why she feels that way. Discuss various options with her and find out how she feels about them.
