D10 told me that on their way back from doctor that W made comment to her that daddy is too difficult to live with. This upset d10 as she explained that she is half of me and that the message she got was that she was difficult to live with too.
Ouch. My mom used to do the same thing to me. On one hand she's say "your dad is such an @sshole" and then later she'd say "you're so much like your dad." Um...thanks Mom! Those are deep wounds and I bore them all the way to adulthood.
I think the counseling for the kids is good and honestly, I'd take care of the kids in the way I felt best regardless what W thinks. Get your attorney involved if need be, but get them there regardless.
One of the things that I have tried to do with the kids is give them some 1 on 1 time with me individually so we can talk about what they worry about. It's just an opportunity for them to get things off their chest and for me to say I love them (and W too) and will always, regardless of what happens in the M.
