On returning home, determined to work on our future, My wife told me she wanted a divorce. She said she had been unhappy for years. I was devastated. Still am. I told her about my 'revelation' in Stockholm, but she says too little, too late.
That's the way she feels right now, so just give her time and space because it's what she wants. She might change her mind later, but it's going to take time. Take stock of what you did wrong in the marriage and do 180's on those things.
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I asked her to follow me to marriage counselling, we go every week. She says shes there to help me understand that its over, but I hope for a chance.
MC never helps with a WAS. It might be better for you to go alone.
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I understand that she wants to move out, but cannot accept it.
Don't try to stop her. If she wants to leave then she will leave one way or another. You don't want to put any pressure on her, and that includes pressuring her to stay when she doesn't want to. Letting her leave will be very difficult (I know, I've been there), but it can lead to healing for both of you.
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Seems like the only hope I have is that in Sweden, if you have children, you cannot divorce immediately. There is a 6 month 'thinking time' between applying for a divorce and signing a divorce paper.
That's great, it gives you plenty of time.
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Hope that during this time she regrets her decision...
You cannot sit around doing nothing while waiting for her to change her mind. It won't happen if she doesn't see significant changes in you. Read DR, follow the guidelines, start working on yourself and your changes.
