Thanks Bug. That is exactly what my sister, my L and my IC said. I do see the gift in that she now agrees...could not help but vent that frustration in my last post. Kept silent on that with W and simply agreed it was good. I would definitely make them go to ER, so will make them go but in a loving and caring way and the way you describe. My d10 is extremely bright and quick witted. Her mom struggles with that. Compares her to me in that negative light. She used to love my quick wit etc, but I guess in last couple years it has served against her and I probably have alienated her because of it. It is there in good times and tough times. I need to use it less in tough times, or not at all. Respond, don't react right? Take a deep breath, leave the situation then respond in kind. L's are getting nasty with each other. I must say in all honesty that mine has tried to approach all collaboratively and with reason. He truly feels this all should have been avoided. He believes in marriage, and if it does not work out to collaborate and not litigate. He has been put in a position to look after me now though.....which is what he is paid to do obviously. He can be tough and a strong negotiator and was well referred to me. I liked him most of the 5 I first consulted with.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
