You know FM, we get where we get when we get there. Your W is more lost than you are and she's holding on by her fingertips to her vision of what her life should be. It's crumbling around her.

Even more reason to let her do what she feels she needs to do but see the gift in that she now agrees to C for the kids.

If you thought your kids needed to go to the ER and they didn't want to go...what would you do?

Tell them you will all go sit in a nice room and whoever wants to talk, can talk. Skilled T can handle these situations, that's their job, so leave it up to them.

This is a marathon and sometimes change is like watching a glacier move.

It's great that your D came up with that textbook answer!

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss