House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 3)

[FloydMan]

So last August I proposed to W that the kids get into counselling and was met "they're fine!" and she refused. I brought this up several times since even had forms for us to sign a few months ago. Also proposed one that all 4 of us would go to....that was met with even more opposition from W. The kids also did not want to go. They have been struggling, d14 at school and d10 with behaviour. The last few months d10 has been acting out, primarily with her mother. Last Thursday and yesterday she refused to go to school saying she was sick...she was not and was quite defiant with her mother. W took her to their GP and GP suggested therapy and D10 told her mother and the doctor "no!". Funny enough it is a group therapy for the 4 of us.....like I suggested ( perhaps in a demanding way though) 6 months ago. apparently W thinks it is a good idea niw....i guess because it was not from me. W wife told me about it and we were supposed to discuss with kids together but she did on her own. The kids told me she talked to them and they both will not go. I tried to explain to them it was a good thing and we all need it. Still no. D10 told me that on their way back from doctor that W made comment to her that daddy is too difficult to live with. This upset d10 as she explained that she is half of me and that the message she got was that she was difficult to live with too. Are we not supposed to make sure and instill in them that this has nothing to do with them and is not their fault? W needs help too herself but just won't see it. Now what?????