JUST this minute worked out what has been upsetting stbx.
Went out to the letterbox and saw the big official envelope. Inside "APPLICATION FOR DIVORCE'
He's done it. It will all be finalised in just over a month.
I've been waiting in fear of a knock on the door since August of last year when he said he was filing. I thought it had to be delivered by a server, but apparently not.
Although the blurb on the form says that I should "return the Acknowledgement of Service (Divorce) to the person who served the Application" on me. A little strange.
So, it's done.
The worst thing about it (aside from the financial order that accompained it whereby he claims over $1M from me & I get NOTHING from him as he states his assets on the form at precisely $0 - REALLY!) is as follows:
1. He claims that were were separated fully one year before BD and were apparently just living under the same roof (as well as going on 3, yes, 3! overseas trips/holidays in that time as a family). How come I didn't realise?????
2. The last point on his financial claim is that "the wife pay the husband's costs of and incidental to these proceedings".
YOU"VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! I am dumbstruck.
Thought for a minute that the OW incident might have precipitated this, but he filed the day before.
This explains all of his recent behaviour towards me - he hasn't spoken to me for a few weeks except to spew, and has refused to come to the house.
Don't know if it's shock, but I feel strangely calm about all of this. I am going straight to my D lawyer to plan the next stage.
