ss says she anticipated his needs and mothered him.

Does he expect her to be a slave or, is he expecting her to be who she was before? If she's not willing to be that person now, communicating that to him would be in the best interests of the R.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss