Had mediation session scheduled yesterday that I'd hoped would be a useful way of moving forward.
At the last minute, the mediator called in sick.
So... another re-schedule.
In the meantime, stbx started calling the kids at around 9pm. On the home phone. I thought it would be him calling that late, so let them pick up.
He ended up calling and texting about 5X in total from 9-10.30pm.
Conversations with both kids ended in argument and upset. He said some really crummy things to them - seemed to be in a real snit about not being able to make them do what he wanted.
And D17's big prom is coming up at end of week, so if I were a mind-reader, i'd say this is affecting him.
STBX has not been involved in any part of the preparations, does not know who she will be taking, what she will wear, nor will he attend the parents' parties associated with the event, or drive her and her date, or pick them up (not to mention that he hasn't paid for any of the substantial associated costs, which she has had to fund, largely, herself from her casual job).
Lots of anger and pain on both sides and so the interaction did not go smoothly.
Anyway, overall, stbx seems to be in a mighty snit. And now that he doesn't want to speak to me, he has turned his spew sessions onto the kids.
I'm keeping out of their interactions with him (a big change for me). I'm also keeping really busy (not hard!) and trying to keep my head in the moment (not so easy). Don't want to miss any more of life by dragging along in some sort of depressed trance-like state.
