Sitting in the back seat!

[Occy01]

Hi there! Thanks for replying! Gets a bit lonely in here sometimes ;-)
I guess things will get a bit mixed up for a while, i'm posting but they're not coming up on the board, still in moderation.....
Re cadet: Trying to gal, going to the gym, doing fun stuff with the kids etc obviously helps me and my mental state. Detaching- do you mean switch off, act like this isn't happening? Not easy!! W doesn't seem to give me time, she thinks I should just accept this and is looking for a place to live.... Seems like for her its full speed ahead..
Re breakdown: haven't read DR or 5LL yet. DR and DB on order, anxiously waiting for their arrival! As for pushing, I understand this doesn't help.me, so i've backed off a lot. Hope w doesn't mistake this for me accepting or not caring!

Things to work on:
GAL
Fun stuff with S and D- quality time
Learning to control my emotions/ anger
Learn to be more positive

Guess these things also come under the 180s to implement list as these were some of the causes for our arguing....

Tonight W pushing to talk about house. Had an agent here today to value the house. W talked to bank about sitch, wants me to go in ASAP and talk about buying her out. I just sat there, listened, looked her in the eyes when she talked. She saw I was hurt, 10 mins later D came home so D and I ate in the kitchen. D went to room and W came into kitchen. She looked sad, asked if I wanted a hug, I said no, then I left for the gym. Came home and she was quite angry that I hadn't come home earlier to talk more about house, bank etc. And why did I just sit there and not say anything when she talked about it earlier. Told her that I can only take so much, needed to breathe, that I found it difficult to discuss....

Hope to be up and posting soon!!!
Thanks again for replying, comforting to know someone is reading and taking time to answer!!