Two things, although I think they go hand in hand.
The passivity of acceptance is one. I think an S can accept an SSM or has to basically say "no go". Because it just leads to resentment, actually, on both parts. H tried to initiate, got rebuffed, never said "Look, this isn't working..." and took forever to leave. I don't even know if he would have left if I didn't bring it up.
Bullying is the other. It is a form of bullying, our position is dominant to yours. Is that the way you want a marriage to be?
So you are admitting that you where refusing the H and waiting on him to leave? That you knew you where bullying him behind this?
