Good point Cadet....with the "stander" definition I found, I really identify with the way I still feel emotionally connected to the ideals and commitment of the marriage, the love I felt within it, and the hopes that it was about our life.
My thoughts about even possibly dating down the road are way out of line with what I truly want.


M 52
W 40
D 15 (step)
S 12 (step)
Married 7, together almost 8
Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..."
BD final 8/22/12