Good point Cadet....with the "stander" definition I found, I really identify with the way I still feel emotionally connected to the ideals and commitment of the marriage, the love I felt within it, and the hopes that it was about our life. My thoughts about even possibly dating down the road are way out of line with what I truly want.
M 52 W 40 D 15 (step) S 12 (step) Married 7, together almost 8 Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..." BD final 8/22/12