I'll try to be brief. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, but unhappy for the last several. My wife met someone else about 7 months ago, I just found out about a month ago. It is a total romantic, emotional, physical relationship. She says t is the most connected and real she has ever felt and has no desire to end it or save our marriage.
We have 2 young kids and have a great family life. We are all still in the same house but she moved into the guest room. I don't want to break up my family so for now this will be our situation. She is past all the pain and emotion of this but I have just been going through it all for the last many weeks. She says that us spitting is not related to the other person and that if that relationship were to end tomorrow nothing would change.
We have had many conversations and want to protect our family and have eliminated all negativity from our interaction and are deciding to get along positively. I have no idea what to do. If I pull back I feel it will only reinforce her position as for many years I became withdrawn, quiet, on-emotional, and she eventually shut down and moved on. Do I compete for her love or live as if I am letting her go?
