BRNR - Thank you for your post. I only have a few minutes this morning, but I skimmed some of your posts. And I hear you, being "friends" is hard - and weird. In some ways it is harder to deal with (I think) then when they are mean to us - at least my reaction is clear cut. For now, my logic in bieng friends is to keep the door open until I am ready to close it and also, I am hoping that by being a friend, I will be in a better position to hear what is going on in his head.
Snodderly, Thank you for stopping by. I knew the no R talk answer but I needed to hear it again. There is so much that comes under that umbrella. I sometimes feel as if the answers are all there for him to look at, he just can't see them. Sigh. And I cannot make him, I know.
MizJ - How nice to hear from you! Yes, lots on my plate right now and none of it very appetizing. I have similar thoughts to yours. We are "friends" but right now I am definately the better friend. It is all about him. He is getting better, though. At least I am being asked how my day is and my plans. And for now, the GF is gone.
I have begun to look at this situation as being in my control. when I want it to stop, I can stop it. But right now, with all that is going on, I am looking at this as the gift of time and also the gift of knowing that no matter what, I can look after myself. Not that I ever thought I couldn't, but now I have been tested and I passed.
He and I were good friends once and maybe we will be again. Right now, he is not holding up my life nor any other decision so I feel I can keep on keeping on for a bit longer. Yes, I miss my best friend and yes, I could sure use a huge a hug right now but I am not ready to chuck it all. Not yet.
