As then end of April 2012 rolled around, I could feel the tension rising again. Despite her claims of ‘we’re working on our relationship’, I’ve always been of the opinion actions speak louder than words and she was showing no action. Then on May 3rd, I get a phone call from my crying D#2 (20 yrs old at this point) saying she thought W and FF were having an affair. She felt betrayed in both directions here since it was her mom, and D#2 was taking care of FF’s horses for him and his W. I asked her how she knew there was an A, and she said she saw some text messages between them. I told her she had no right to look at her mother’s phone, as it was going to cause major problems.
As it was, I was already somewhat aware of certain things since on of W's employees and several of her friends did not approve of how she was handling herself and constantly let me know about it, telling me 'this is NOT the person we know'.
That night I viewed the text messages myself. I told myself it was in an effort to see if D#2 just misread the messages - but in reality it was probably so I could have my 'YOU'RE BUSTED!' moment.
I wasn’t at all prepared for what I read. While there was nothing that admitted to an active sexual relationship, the vast majority of the messages were very suggestive. FF was away at bike week and was offering to buy her all sorts of lingerie (pics included). He asked her to come join him – she said she couldn’t, but, made several sexual innuendos. He offered to pay for her to get a boob job and other stuff. There was a discussion about D#2 and her questioning her mom about stuff and FF said D#2 was ‘pissing him off’.
Now, during the times this was going on, W had not replied to a single text I had sent her. I asked FF’s W if she had heard from him, she said he told her he could talk since his phone was about to die. When I asked W why she didn’t reply to my messages, she said her phone was charging. Lies from both parties.
What I’m getting ready to say may not be my most shining moment, but, I do take full responsibility for it. Yes I was mad, hurt, etc… While viewing her text messages, I took pics of the screen of her phone with my phone. I’ve asked myself why several times and have always told myself that I was trying to find proof of an A, save my marriage, etc… I took those text messages to FF’s wife so she could see them. He was still at bike week. I told her to do with them as she saw fit, and I was going to confront my (still sleeping) W about it shortly. And confront I did…
