Hi Cadet, thanks for the suggestions. Subsequent posts will be shorter, but, it's nowhere near done, lol...
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Get out and GAL. DETACH.
I actually started this step in May of last year. I feel I have detached pretty well at this point. My preference would be to save/rescue/rebuild our relationship. However, I am fully prepared to go our separate ways if that's what ends up happening. We still live in the same house - separate rooms - ans I ask how her day went and discuss the kids. That's about it. There's no conversation about us, I don't follow her around the house and ask her what she's doing, etc... (though ironically, she HAS started doing this to me...)
As for GALing, I've been getting out of the house more, picking up some old hobbies and a few new ones. Just doing things I enjoy.
Looking back, I can see where the wheels of this started spinning, so it's been in motion for probably two years now, maybe longer.
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Believe none of what she says and half of what she does. Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
I think this was probably the hardest part for me. I only came across MWD's books in December of 2012. However, I had listened to Mort Fertel's 'Marriage Fitness' program and that gave me some clues. But Mort's stuff didn't provide solutions the same way Michelle's books do. I've bought and read: Divorce Busting, Divorce Remedy and Change Your Life and Everybody In It, as well as Dr. Phil's 'Relationship Rescue' - all since December 21st (another Bomb Drop day...)
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Doing all the above. Not easy some times, but, working it the best I can.
Originally Posted By: Cadet
You are on moderation right now on the forum. SO post in small frequent posts until you get off of it.
Thanks for the tip!!
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Your W is giving you a GIFT. THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.
At first I thought of it as a living hell, but, I've come to realize this is a VERY true statement.
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Knowledge is Power - Francis Bacon
Keep Posting but have patience for your posts to show up
It is - even though this has being going on for a while now, I still have MUCH to learn and thanks for the encouragement.
