Sam, I understand the frustration when talking to an mlcer. You aren't speaking to an adult, but a teenager at heart. They tend to hear things differently, as in: it's my time, my space and I don't want responsibility.
You are aggravated w/her and duly so. However, she was interested enough in your like to inquire about your grandmother. She may have totally forgotten that you had scheduled kennel time for your dogs. Please keep in mind that during mlc their memory isn't good at all.
You are going to have to dig deeper for patience and try to remember that even though her body is the same, the person within is not. Keep your expectations at zero. You are stil expecting her to act like the pe-crisis wife...that won't happen for a long time.
I do hope that your grandmother is resting peacefully and is not in pain. Please travel safely.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
