Any thoughts on Valentines Day? Wondering what you are thinking.
Every sitch is different. I know the popular sentiment on the board is to not get 'em anything, and for some, (many?, most?) I'd agree.
My wife has always been a gifter. Never missed a special day, and was crushed the few times that I did. So, I will get her a card commemorating the day, but no other gifts besides that.
She is still my Valentine, but since she is not interested in me "in that way", it will be a friendly or possibly even a humorous one. Nothing mushy, no hugs and kisses or true love forever stuff. That would turn her off.
It will be interesting to see if she gets me a card. Actually, I give it a 50/50 shot that she will... if only because she figures I'll get her one.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
So, I will get her a card commemorating the day...it will be a friendly or possibly even a humorous one.
Good plan, I think I'll follow that plan too.
H said he will take me out to a nice restaurant, so I think just a small card with "Happy Valentine's Day" and nothing else would be good for me. And I think I'll make some cute, small heart shaped cookies in the Valentine's theme.
15 years ago on Valentine's Day is when H asked me to marry him, so, I too, like you, don't want to ignore it, if it is special to him.
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
She is still my Valentine
I think this is really sweet
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
FY, good idea to get her a humorous or friendly card.
Is your W having mood swings? I know someone already brought this up, but part of her behavior might be related to her sensitivity to the hormonal changes going on in her body. If she had/has bad PMS symptoms, then she's very sensitive to hormonal changes. Just a thought. If this was the case, then it would be great, bc the hormonal shifts will end soon.
Thanks RH, I hope hubby and you have a great V-day.
Originally Posted By: tori2012
Is your W having mood swings? I know someone already brought this up, but part of her behavior might be related to her sensitivity to the hormonal changes going on in her body. If she had/has bad PMS symptoms, then she's very sensitive to hormonal changes. Just a thought. If this was the case, then it would be great, bc the hormonal shifts will end soon.
I'd say her moods are still pretty steady. She's never had swings, not even during her time of the month. At 50, she probably is nearing menopause though. She's exercising and has a good diet, which I understand helps through the transition.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
FY, good idea to get her a humorous or friendly card.
Is your W having mood swings? I know someone already brought this up, but part of her behavior might be related to her sensitivity to the hormonal changes going on in her body. If she had/has bad PMS symptoms, then she's very sensitive to hormonal changes. Just a thought. If this was the case, then it would be great, bc the hormonal shifts will end soon.
Tori, I'm going to copy this over to your thread to ask about bad PMS symptoms...
Not yet. Almost pulled the trigger on this one, because it truly is appropriate!
Front: I’m not sick of you yet
Inside: Happy Valentine’s day!
But then I decided it was a just a tad too blunt/cold. Haha I’ll look some more, or I’ll write one up. Either way I’ll post how V-day goes.
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My guess is that if your W is not bothered by PMS, then she'll be okay through menopause. That's good news.
I hope you’re right, we can use some good news.
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What 180's have you done lately?
I’m not jumping around trying different 180’s, just staying the course, being the H that only a fool would leave. Keeping up the PMA, showing confidence and contentment. Feeling stronger every week, but still fall into the funk at times, like we all do.
Funny stuff:
On Grammy night wife and I watched the awards. This is a big change for her, as music was never her thing until this crises hit. Now she’s an expert on all the latest bands/artists. (well, compared to me) In the beginning of the show, I thought I was being funny when I said, Hey, is that Bull Dog? (knowing full well it probably wasn’t) She chided me with a "Nooo", and a big roll of the eyes, which I later interpreted as “Dad, how can you be so <insert up to date word for square>”. Lol
She also nodded approvingly when they quoted whoever it was that said "If you're following the rules, you're missing all the fun" My wife is a Rebel!
Goodness journal:
For X-mas I had bought W an electric fireplace which she has refused to use. The old W would have loved it. This past weekend she cleaned and rearranged the living room where it was sitting. She repositioned the fireplace and set a fancy urn on top which contains the remains of our former pets. This was the first time she even touched the thing. An acknowledgment of sorts, I thought, considering that several months ago she was talking about setting up a place of her own.
Then, I received this email yesterday:
401(k) Catch up. I wonder if the financial guy thinks this is a good idea or not? We wouldn't have to do the whole amount.
She used the word “we” when discussing the future. So, unless she’s planning on saving money for when she meets her new Prince Charming, I figured this was a good sign. Besides, even if I do die in celibacy, at least I won’t have to be in poverty too. lol
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
