When I first heard the term boundaries, being the manipulative, controlling person I am (transforming from), I assumed all the wrong things, that it would drive W further away, give her a tool to get further from me, therefore I was reluctant to wholeheartedly support it or trust the C advice. Which I know reveals I still want control..... but the first step is the knowing, I guess.
I have read 1st 200 pages of the book and followed along on the workbook for much of it. LOTs of soul searching, prayer, and tears over just what a prick I've been.
So eye-opening. Also encouraging. I now see this process as crucial to W healing, and also to mine. I trust the C now that I know what this term means more fully.
My prayer is for a chance to show her I get this.
Also feel at peace enough to read something for sheer personal enjoyment..a spy novel I picked up. Haven't done that in 5 months or more.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
but the first step is the knowing, I guess.