I love that song by alicia keys--the lyrics really describe where I am or almost am in this process. Working on it anyway..
Hiya! I’m baa-ack…I haven’t had a thread here for a while, but…I just started seeing a therapist and she recommended Divorce Care and journaling. The only time I’ve ever journaled was here, so here I am...I went to DivorceCare last week. I wish I had taken it 2-3 years ago before and during the divorce. The topic was depression, and basically everything I figured out about dealing with depression, they presented in the class in one hour. So..don’t know if it will help at 2.5 years after the divorce, but if it does then I’ll go.
The reason the C recommended I go is that when I told her about the period when my X asked for the divorce, had an OW, and the day before my brother’s brain surgery for his tumor, I asked X for a hug and he said it wouldn’t be fair to his girlfriend. I teared up when I told her that; it seems like the rock bottom moment in my marriage. Of course I am also someone who tears up during hallmark commercials, and I just teared up when my friend’s fish died that she kept at our office…
I started going to therapy b/c just recently X waited for me in the parking lot again after my daughter’s psych appointment and told me I need therapy and he thinks I have Munchausen’s due to my wanting my D to be on meds for her autism/PDD-NOS (which she has been on for about 9 years). I did NOT go to therapy at his recommendation, but more that I literally become physically ill when I am around him, and would like to get over that if possible.
Life is good. It’s been a break the last 6 months from court. X tried to lower my child support one year after the divorce, and basically the judge said he was not credible and it was frivolous, but I was still stuck paying for a lawyer for over a year. X as a lawyer represented himself, but at least since he did wind up paying half of my L fees, hopefully that will help prevent any more lawsuits.
I am still working at the same job over 3 years later. I like it, and I love the people I work with. My kids are doing awesome, doing well at school, healthy, and happy. So life is pretty good for me right now… Karen
