So I need some help. My W came by today to pickup her dog. She was cordial and asked me about my grandmother, etc. What I find is that I seem aggravated by her questions. I feel uneasy and on edge and my responses probably come across short and abrupt.
For example, before she left today she said, "Let me know if you lose power during the snow storm". I said I'm not sure what you can do about it. She responded in an detached tone, "Well there is nothing I can do, I just want to know." I do not want to keep having conversations like this and I need to figure out a better way to be more “friendly” when communicating with W.
I had to contact my W today to tell her that my grandmother had taken a turn for the worse and that she was not expected to live much longer. I had explained to her on Friday that my grandmother was in hospice and she asked "Why"? I explained that there are variuos typse of hospice and she is in elderly care hospice.
I called and left a message to let her know that I was leaving to fly to my family’s home. She took almost an hour before she called me back. Yeah I’m a bit upset. Friday when she came to pickup her dog she said that she wanted to know how my grandmother was doing; and as she said t me “she had been in her life for all these years”. So I called and wanted to know my grandmothers status and see if she could take care of all the dogs while I am away. When I explained what was going on and asked if she could take care of the dogs and drop them at the kennel on Thursday since we would both be away. After the quick, “I’m sorry about your grandmother” she went right into “You know I’m leaving on Thursday, when will you be back?” I said that had originally scheduled to visit my family and was leaving on Thursday. I had already made arrangements with the kennel for the dogs and had let my W know this last week. I explained that I was just moving my trip up since they did not expect my grandmother to live much longer. She again asked about when I would be back. I was getting frustrated, since the conversation turned to be more about the inconvenience to her for take care of and drop the dogs off at the kennel. I explained again to her again that I wouldn’t be back until the following Monday. And for her to please drop the dogs off on Thursday and I’ll pick them up on Monday when I get back. I needed her to confirm that she could take care of them Monday thru the time she would drop them off. She then was like, oh sure. I was abrupt and said Thank you, and hung up. I’ll admit, it seems this conversation was weird and frustrating. I felt like I almost hung up on her since I felt so aggravated with how she was more concerned about her travel plans than with my grandmother.
I don't want to be this way and I feel I get very frustrated/aggrevated by these types conversations. Any advice???
